Alesha should not have died

By: Aisha Sarwari

Extortionists and haters alike harass the transgender community in Pakistan. Mafias try to exploit them sexually, or through panhandling. Not only do they go through life with an identity crisis, they are continuously segregated by mainstream society and find themselves out of jobs and devoid of any advancement opportunities. They are at the bottom of the pecking order of our horrid education system that is busy demonising all sorts of other communities that don’t agree with the Muslim male ethos.

This is why Alesha, a transgender and coordinator of Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa Trans Action Alliance, ended up dead. It is likely her attackers were part of a gang in Peshawar. Halfway to the other side of the city, she was brought to Lady Reading Hospital bleeding and broken. In a more humane society, this would mean the beginning of the end of her ordeal; in Pakistan this meant the beginning of a new one. The hospital administration, with a rallying mob of admitted patients, could not allow her in either the male or the female ward. They were uneasy, disturbed and even disgusted. There was much ado, Alesha was unattended for hours and was not admitted to the intensive care unit. The problem is that a haemorrhaging wound doesn’t wait for society to figure out what comes first: its transphobia or its humanity. Alesha died amidst attempts to treat her in some corner by putting up some makeshift curtains. She was beautiful and had a lovely smile. Even as she lay dead. Even our living don’t look that good.

The problem is that as a people, we only see beauty when it aligns with our notions of what it should be. In this case, the gender binary is so strong that to shake the male-equals-superior and female-equals-subservient paradigm is next to impossible. Transphobia is rooted in sexism. It is unfathomable for misogynists to digest that a man at birth would want to embrace a female identity and biology. They assume this is deplorable and they also assume that it is a choice. Just like it is okay for girls to wear blue but a disgrace to see a boy in pink, it is a carnal sin to be more feminine at will. Progress can only mean being more male.

If the government thinks that allowing transgenders the right to define themselves as “trans” is the final redemption for their human rights, it cannot be more wrong. Yes, identity is important but it is only useful if it has a cultural subtext to be allowed expression. While one leads to the other, in this age of religious extremism, and impunity when it comes to gender crimes, an ID card where gender is identified as “trans” isn’t worth a penny. Transgenders need acceptance. This is unfortunately deemed akin to an end to male superiority. With a government that looks as if it is involved in a gladiator match in ancient Rome, and only a trickle of a representation of women within it, what can one expect but more crimes like these? K-P seems to be at the centre of these gender crimes. Just a few weeks ago, a girl was drugged in Abbottabad and burned, tied up at the back of a van, in what was essentially an honour crime.

Some day, there will be equality in its truest sense, but currently in K-P and elsewhere, the men with their hyped male bravado are reigning supreme. They rule with a combination of fanfare, gusto and ambivalence and as a result, they are putting forth a gore-fest. There are so many things that one can die for. Being of an undefined gender should not be one of them. The following month will see the pious praying for forgiveness and vowing to be kind to their fellow beings. The injustice that many of them mete out to transgenders will probably not be on the list of acts for which they will be asking for forgiveness.

Rest in peace Alesha. Pakistan has failed you and your people.

Express Tribune

CII justifies ‘light beatings’ for errant wives

ISLAMABAD: The Council of Islamic Ideology (CII) has obser­ved that it was only justified for men to beat their wives ‘gently’, without humiliating them, if they needed to be disciplined.

Speaking at a press conference after a council meeting on Thursday, CII Chairman Maulana Mohammad Khan Sheerani said that Islam focused on the promotion of the family system and wan­ted societal values to be strengthened. “Men have certain responsibilities and women are given particular roles, but violence of any kind is not permitted,” Maulana Sheerani said, but then amended his statement to, “Violence by any of the spouses is not allowed under Islam.”

But when asked about the conditions under which a man could beat his wife, he outlined certain parameters. “He cannot scratch her skin, draw blood or damage any of her bones,” he explained.

The CII chief then elaborated what the council believed a man should do if his wife went against Sharia principles. “This does not necessarily mean something to do with her character alone,” he clarified, adding that the man has to follow a five-step regime that shows his displeasure before resorting to physical discipline.

Firstly, a man should express his annoyance; then — if the couple sleeps in the same bed — they should not face each other; thirdly, the man should sleep in a separate bed; and fourthly, he should sleep in a separate room. If the woman fails to mend her ways despite these rebukes, the CII chief said that her husband was then allowed to show aggression towards her, albeit gently.

“But aggression does not mean that he can slap her face, or any of the soft parts of her body. He also cannot degrade her by hitting her with something like a broom, no matter how lightly,” Maulana Sheerani added.

Throughout the presser, the CII chief was accompanied by senior council member Maulana Iftikhar Naqvi, who continued to assist Maulana Sheerani with his choice of words.

Highlighting the rights of women in Islam, Maulana Naqvi said that a man could not order his wife to prepare meals for him nor could he address her in a harsh tone, and there was no question of mistreating one’s wife in Islam.

“There is a general trend in the country that people only criticise [for the sake of criticising], but we have shown that apart from Islam, nearly all monotheistic faiths of the world grant special rights and privileges to women,” Maulana Sheerani said.

The three-day meeting was the last CII gathering before the end of the current financial year. The key agenda was discussion on a 75-page ‘Women Protection Bill’, drafted by a CII member Maulana Imdadullah. Although the bill contained 163 articles, the council could only discuss 26 of these points in its three-day session.

The bill was drafted by the CII after it rejected the Punjab Protection of Women Against Violence bill, which was approved by the Punjab Assembly was denounced by nearly all religious segments, except the Tehreek-i-Nifaz-i-Fiqh-i-Jaffaria (TNFJ). Led by Allama Hamid Ali Moosavi, the TNFJ had welcomed the bill and termed it a positive step to “tame the illiterates” in the country.

Even though the bill has been ratified by the Punjab Assembly, it has yet to be notified due to a backlash from clerics and conservative quarters.

Meanwhile, a similar draft, forwarded to the CII by the Khyber Pakhtunkhwa (KP) government, was also rejected. The CII had announced that it would prepare its own bill to highlight the rights and powers granted to women in this regard.

Dawn

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